The Fatherless Story that is never told.
Being a father 15 to 24 is not easy for today’s society. Fatherhood doesn’t come with a play book or a guide. It is something one must learn from another man not a woman. Only a man can teach a man how to be a man. Without this tool in society there will be problems. This is why we as a people have to know our history on fatherhood and how the welfare system pushed fathers out of the households in the 80’s. When I was a baby I knew my father loved me, I knew he would hold me in his arms and say to me son I love you, I knew he was a proud father, and I knew all of this because I felt it within myself. It was a sharp loving touch to my heart. He was an educated hustler from the west side of Chicago. I admire him so much when I was a child because I know he had money, guns, and a real name for his self in the streets. I told myself as a child when I grow up I want to be like him. But he missed my growth and time in this world. I grew up without my father in my life. Him and my mother broke up when I was 12yrs old. My father was a good man. It’s just that my grandfather who is his father wasn’t in his life. So he didn’t have any guidance when it came to fatherhood but to provide the best and that he did do. Someone had to break the chain so I did. When my daughter Jada Traven Smith was born May. 22, 2009 at 5:36pm I was their watching her come into the earth healthy and not crying. It touch my soul so much to see her coming into the world, so I called my mom and at that moment I cried like a baby. I’m smiling because I’m a proud father and I know not having my father in my life played a role within my growth.
I thought it would be easy being a father. But we are under resourced and the system is against us. There are laws made for fathers that are wrong. How can a woman leave the state with your child and the police can’t do anything about it, but if the father leave and go to another state with the child its kidnapping, How can a woman just put a man on child support and the child is not even his baby, How can a man pay child support and there aren’t any jobs in the economy and if he don’t pay he will go to jail or get his license revoked, why isn’t there any jobs, housing, transportation, schooling plan, health plan, and shelter set up for fathers. If you look around its only like that for mothers. Mothers aren’t the only ones being parents in this world. A man is the provider and since he is under resourced this forces him to man up, run away, or hustle to save him and his family. Which will land him in Jail, Dead, on Drugs, or not in his child life? The odds are against us. So I decided to make a plan for young fathers age 15 to 24. In March of 2010 I started a program called the Dovetail Project were fathers ages 15 to 24 learn Parenting Skills, Life Skills, and Felony Street Law, and Parenting rights. I’ve worked with over 200 fathers on these issues. We have to stand up for what we believe in and change the world around us to better our future. It start with self, what will you do to help a father in need?