Marriage: “I can do bad all by myself…”
Lately the news has been consumed with a lot of articles concerning the importance of marriage and how blacks in particular don`t seem suited for marriage given the horrible statistics that as many as 7 out of 10 black women are not married.
While I agree that for some, marriage is important, what type of marriage does this need to be? According to an article, Why do women forgive unfaithful husbands? by Telegraph in the United Kingdom, as many as 5 out of 10 marriages survive infidelity. In France, the article quotes, it is conserved a norm to let their husbands, “be men” and cheat on them. One woman even said, “I’ve intimated that as long as he’s discreet and doesn’t fall in love or get his girlfriend pregnant he can do what he likes. Frenchwomen do it, so why not me.”
After reading this, I became sick to my stomach. Why is it so important to push the black community towards marriage when at best, half of them have problems ranging from constant infidelity to financial issues. Perhaps Madea had it right when she said, “I can do bad all by myself.”And perhaps black women in particular have taken this saying to heart. Should black women be more like white women and take more crap? Or are white women smarter for dealing with a bad husband, but a second salary? Perhaps this goes back to the old saying, “to each its own.”