Confronting The Idols Of Our Masculinity
What it means to know the “male mind” is nothing other than knowing the crux of a structure. It may be that we extract and store knowledge to navigate the rules determined by the social world. Television shows, movies, radio programs encode the idol, the archetypical male.
TV character Martin, for instance, deflects his boss and co-worker’s suggestions for Gena’s anniversary gift. Those identifying with the “male” group, or Martin Lawrence’s character by gender, could write in their minds the order. Young men could recite codes such as, nobody knows what is best for my partner. Due to Martin Lawrence’s character, the performance pronounces a code of ethics that is male.
These codes live in our unconscious; without a thought, our bodies follow the code. This knowledge pushes consciousness into a struggle with the rule, the command of knowledge. Thus, its important to know our idols because they represent the ambitions of our personality. The way we discipline our selves to customize a social self copies an ideal.
Manhood downloaded itself as data in my mind from various patriarchal idols. Outside of the characters on screen, my fathers inherently evolved into idols of manhood just by their accidental instruction. It’s an education which grows into the individual, updating codes that generate social models that influence action.
Every moment of our lives of involves a prior thought process. Before we act theres an internal dialectic, a back and forth debate, that tangos with the self and the idol. Those “masculine” moments that feminist like to criticize always remain a possibility, but they are contingent on the obedience or transgression of the idol.