Last Friday was National Coming Out Day. Shout out to those who took it as an opportunity to publicly express their sexuality and those who didn’t. Either way, you deserve a big hug and an even bigger ice cream cone. Of course, even with the government shutdown, politics influences how we view the day. So, it wasn’t surprising that last week the same-sex marriage issue that many states are addressing got tied to coming out. Clearly, there are what might be regarded as “problems” with the process of coming out and same-sex marriage. Now, I won’t spend anytime here unpacking any of the issues as I see them. Instead, I’d like to take a moment to promote yet another modest proposal.
Fraught, conservative institution or not, we can all agree that marriage can be an expensive endeavor. From dresses to flowers to delicious cake to chicken or beef or veggie, jumping the broom in any traditional capacity costs many a ducket. In a way, that’s what the fight for same-sex marriage is for: access to several rituals which includes registering a place setting you’ll never use. In essence, that’s the transaction. I put on a big party and feed you, you cry over me and buy me steak knives. Which brings me to my point.